I wanted to fill you in on something about fear:
Most day-to-day fear is not useful.
It only pretends to be useful.
Most often, the fear we feel is not actually saving our lives or protecting us from imminent danger. Which is what its original purpose was.
It’s just the perception of fear that we are experiencing, and it needs a gentle reminder to move along.
We can allow fear to stop us in our tracks, or we can remind ourselves, “Oh, yeah, this isn’t going to hurt me. I’m not going to die. No one’s going to die here.”
In many ways, fear serves us. It keeps us from doing things that could legitimately hurt us. It can help us make better decisions when it comes to our safety.
The thing to realize is that our brains are super-programmed for fear to help us survive, but we’ve evolved (at least theoretically 😉 and nowadays, a lot of our fear + anxiety is irrational and even unnecessary.
Simply recognizing that fear and irrational fear are going to be a part of our lives will help immensely with moving forward. Don’t obsess about “getting rid” of it. Focus on embracing it and having it be a part of our evolutionary brain.
Also, fear does not mean stop. You don’t have to be fearless to take action. Really consider this. Taking action while acknowledging fear can be one of the most powerful things that we do.
Most of the fear that we have comes from a thought in our minds, a thought that is irrational.
Let that sink in! We let this thought have sooooo much power over us.
Irrational fear that stops us in our tracks is often the result of a mismanaged mind.
We can overcome fear + anxiety by deciding not to believe the thoughts causing it. Instead, we can understand it, find its cause, find the thought patterns that are causing it, and then change them.
If the fear is deep-seated and hard to change, I want you to take action anyway. Why?
When you take action, all of those fears get proven wrong. You’ll be fine. It’s so important to keep taking action because when you don’t, you’re reinforcing the fear, but when you do, every time you take action – every time – you give your brain more proof that the fear was irrational.
And your courage grows.
The good news is taking action while feeling fear is a skill you can develop! I teach it in the Ziji Up! Unshakeable Confidence course because it’s too important not to.
What are you afraid of? Is it irrational? Yes? Take action anyway. You’ll see that you can survive, which also provides evidence to your brain.
What you’re really afraid of is not life or death.
It’s your own feelings that you’re scared of.
The good news is that those can be dealt with. They are completely within your control. Don’t ever forget that.
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