The Truth About Freedom – 3 Common Mistakes People Make

strategymindmap-200x133When I started my business and chose “Freedom Junkie” and “Freedom Sessions” as a part of my brand, I have to admit that I was feeling pretty original. Most coaches were focused on manifesting “success” and finding your “true purpose” or your “genius work,” or living your “dreams.”

These are not bad things! However, Freedom as a word was something that a smaller, more wacky, unconventional and renegade group of coaches focused on. After call, convincing people freedom was da bomb was a lot harder than convincing them to want to be rich or successful…or happy for that matter. As with anything awesome, the word “freedom” eventually caught on in the coaching world, and now you can find the word Freedom everywhere!

But what does this really mean? Does this mean more people are actively looking for more freedom, or that more people are truly teaching how to create more freedom? I sure hope so!

Unfortunately, it seems that for most, things haven’t changed outside of the verbiage used. I’m seeing a lot people say, “Make more money and [therefore] have more freedom!” “Work from your laptop and have more freedom!” “Become an entrepreneur and have more freedom!”

While these are all fun things to have in life, these aren’t really the things that bring you TRUE freedom – they’re just twists on the words success, passion, and location-independence, for example. Do they help you with freedom? Sure! But do they address the root of freedom? No.

We use the word Freedom rather nonchalantly, but the word Freedom implies freedom from something. We can free ourselves from external constraints with financial abundance, location independence, self-employment….

But what’s the ONE THING we are all really seeking freedom from?

We are ALL seeking freedom from suffering. Not even freedom from pain, but from suffering! As the famous quote by the Buddhist teacher Haruki Murakami goes, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

The {often} hard truth about freedom is that it is so profoundly about the work you’re doing on the inside. In their pursuit of freedom, most people don’t remember these key points:

3 Common Mistakes People Make When Seeking Freedom

1. Forgetting that you first have to own your shit.

Freedom must begin here, with the knowing that life is in YOUR hands and no one else’s – not with your militant boss, your insensitive boyfriend or your mean sibling; not in your past with your controlling/abusive parents, not your crappy neighborhood or the fact that your parents didn’t help you pay for college, not your short stature or your frizzy hair. NONE of that has to do with your freedom in this moment, right now. Until this fact is absorbed, there will always be excuses instead of solutions. And here’s a tweetable, amiga:

You cannot create freedom with excuses.  (Tweet it!)

 

2. Not knowing what you want and what it feels like

First, get clear about what freedom FEELS like to you, because freedom is a FEELING. Focus on how your body experiences freedom, what it feels like to be free, really conjure up that feeling and its vibration and tap into it. This is the only way you will truly ever be free. If you have no idea what freedom will feel like to you, you won’t ever know when it’s arrived, and you’ll keep seeking in all the different places for it – which are often simply distractions. Unless you actually FEEL free, the other stuff that’s supposed to get you there doesn’t really matter. So be sure you are clear about how you want to feel and experience this whole Freedom thing;)

Once you’re clear about what the Freedom feels like for you, start to get detailed about the other aspects of Freedom.

There are 5 “currencies” of Freedom, not to be mistaken for freedom itself. These are:

  1. time
  2. money
  3. energy
  4. creativity
  5. location

When you are clear about what you want to achieve with each of these forms of freedom moolah, you can more easily see what ISN’T giving you freedom. For example, if you are clear about what you want in a relationship, if you are in a bad or even simply mediocre/”maybe” relationship, you can more easily walk way from it.

Why is this so? When you are clear about what you want, you can make decisions more easily and with more confidence, and you will be less likely to tolerate something that isn’t clearly what you want, or stall taking action due to being unsure or insecure.

When people vacillate about whether or not they are in a good relationship, or if they “should” be more patient with someone or consider their “potential,” this is likely because they aren’t clear about what they want.

When you are clear, you can say, “Sorry. Homegirl don’t play that.” Or, “I don’t date for potential. That’s sooooo 80s.”

Capiche?

When you’re not clear, you start wondering if it’s your shit, or if it’s because you’re tired or mean or too picky. You start wondering if it’s because you are judging them and you know that is a “bad” thing to do. However, when you are clear, it’s not personal. It’s just the facts, ma’am.

3. Not taking action (or simply taking the same actions you’ve been taking and expecting a different outcome)

Once you’re clear about what you want, it’s time to act on that. Only then will your life start to manifest more freedom. And that action needs to be different from what you’ve been doing. You can’t keep doing the same thing expecting a different outcome!

Only when you start saying, “No” when you don’t feel like doing something; when you stop tolerating, when the fear of not being free is greater than the fear of being alone and you leave an unhealthy relationship…

Only when you ACT on behalf of what you want – and you start banking your freedom currency – will freedom manifest.

It’s not enough to dream and set intentions and talk about it. It’s not enough to get a Freedom tattoo on your back or write down all the ways more money will help you get more time, energy, and passport stamps.

This is where the rubber meets the road. Act, and you shall receive (tweet it!).

So ask yourself this now:

:: What’s my shit? What is my baggage, my mistakes, my habitual patterns that no longer serve me, MY self-limiting beliefs...what part of the way my life is right now is not a part of my creation? (Hint: none of it)

:: What DO I want?

:: What’s one thing I can do right now that will move me closer to freedom – to what freedom means for me?

Share this Freedom Love with me below – I want to know what freedom means for you, and how you’re going to start manifesting it. The more free women in the world, the more free communities and cities and countries and continents…and the more free souls to light up the universe!

12 Comments on The Truth About Freedom – 3 Common Mistakes People Make

  1. Susie
    April 7, 2014 at 12:40 pm (4 years ago)

    Great article and great tips! It’s a process that requires time and thought but once achieved, it’s a wonderful feeling!!!

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    • Ana Verzone
      April 7, 2014 at 3:10 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks, Susie! Yes – the key is also maintaining it once you’re feelin’ it!

      Reply
  2. zoerichards
    April 7, 2014 at 2:47 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh boy, it took me a while to own my shit! I could have enjoyed freedom so much sooner if I’d not made that mistake! I avoiding owning my shit so well I became an expert at it!

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    • Ana Verzone
      April 7, 2014 at 3:09 pm (4 years ago)

      LOL thanks for the honesty, Zoe;)

      Reply
  3. Caroline Cain
    April 7, 2014 at 6:05 pm (4 years ago)

    THANK YOU for writing a post about ‘freedom’ and what it actually is. I’m called the Freedom Seeker’s Business Mentor and it’s something that I talk about a lot. It’s not just freedom from a boss, it’s not just choosing your own hours…it’s about the FEELING that we want to experience each and every day. Knowing that we are choosing, and actually having the courage to do so…which then ties in nicely to your Buddhist quote about suffering being optional. It’s about truly taking responsibility.
    Good one, loved it!

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    • Ana Verzone
      April 7, 2014 at 10:10 pm (4 years ago)

      Amen, fellow Freedom Junkie;)

      Reply
  4. nutrikrystal
    April 7, 2014 at 9:06 pm (4 years ago)

    Great insights on freedom. For me my most valuable currency is time. I never have enough of it, so I’m not quick to give it away. So when I think of the word freedom I think of a freeing of my time, so I can do more of what I want and have more passion in my life.

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    • Ana Verzone
      April 7, 2014 at 10:12 pm (4 years ago)

      Time is uber important to me as well! I’ll do a lot to create more free time. Without it I feel much more restricted, no matter how free I am with location, energy, creativity etc. Thanks for sharing!

      Reply
  5. interplayhealth
    April 8, 2014 at 12:20 pm (4 years ago)

    I love the five currencies of freedom. I never really think of it on all five levels. It’s interesting to reflect on how I’ve moved through these currencies over the years. Time is top of my list these days and I’ve really achieved that. Money will be the next one!

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    • Ana Verzone
      April 9, 2014 at 8:29 am (4 years ago)

      That’s awesome!If you have any pearls of wisdom to share about having created more freedom with time in your life, please do share;) May abundance flow to you easily and effortlessly!

      Reply
  6. Helene Scott
    April 8, 2014 at 2:54 pm (4 years ago)

    This is fabulous! I’m bookmarking so I can sit down with pen to paper when I have more time. THANK YOU. xo!

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    • Ana Verzone
      April 9, 2014 at 8:30 am (4 years ago)

      You’re welcome, Helene! xo

      Reply

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