Simple Freedom – The Beginning of My Journey Into How to Simplify Life

deewilliamsWhen I was at the World Domination Summit, one of the speakers I found particularly inspiring (and hilarious!) was Dee Williams of Portland Alternative Dwellings and author of The Big Tiny. That’s her over there in the superhero cape (she absconded with a Delta airlines blanket). She gave an absolutely motivating talk on minimalism and choosing SIMPLE. She lives in a 84 square foot swelling – and LOVES it.

Listening to her describe the joy of selling her house and building her 84 sqft dwelling and loving every minute of it reminded me of the absolute contentment I felt when I lived out of my car for 7 years.

Everything I owned was in the back of my Volvo station wagon. My prayer flags were hung along the rear windows, and I’d fall asleep under the stars in a place like Joshua Tree, feeling so at peace knowing that all I needed was with me, and that I could go anywhere I pleased and do anything – climb, hike, raft…without having to pack;) I had no utility bills, no cell phone bill, no marketing deadline I had to meet.

I had a PO Box in Santa Cruz that I checked whenever I rolled into town. I forwarded my mail to strange and remote parts of the country if I knew I’d be there awhile. When I needed a shower, I always found one. People took me into their homes and fed me really good food and offered me to sleep in cotton sheets (cotton is so yummy when you’ve been in a sleeping bag most of the year).

Obviously, that’s a whole lot easier of a lifestyle to live in your 20s when you don’t have kids or own a home. However, I’d be amiss to say that having that feeling was impossible as an adult, with or without a family and/or a home.

I know there are nay-sayers who have the excuse that this isn’t possible once you “grow up” and have responsibilities. Our society accept stress and chaos as the norm. We argue that it’s a part of life in our society that we have to accept – most certainly if you’re a successful entrepreneur. But I’ve made a mistake.

In my own way, I’ve let myself get lost in that belief.

I lost sight of my goal – true SIMPLE freedom.

That FEELING of ease, contentment, relaxation along with freedom.

Despite all I have learned about creating freedom in life, I let myself believe that being a successful entrepreneur means being location independent at all costs, that I “have” to blog once a week, that I must have a constantly updated sales funnel, network at all times, and be interviewed on as many podcasts as I could.

I let myself believe that I wasn’t fully living unless I was learning EVERYTHING that I possibly could. Reading in all my free time – or listening to an audiobook or streaming a lecture. I filled every possible minute with something awesome, productive or geeky. I made myself So. Damn. Busy.

Then there’s the STUFF.

When I worked on my money mindset early on in my business (I grew up VERY poor and had to work on the whole money-is-evil thing) and accepted abundance into my life, I let it manifest as feelings AND things: a condo in Telluride at the base of the ski mountain, a home with killer views and an adorable sauna on the hill above the theaters in Ashland. Clothes made of delicious fabrics, a Subaru that was only a year old and Certified Used (I still can’t bring myself to buy a new car LOL;). Vacations where I’d not think twice about the cost. You get the idea.

It was in my mind that as long as I let these things flow and come into my life with ease, that my life would be full of ease as well. However…

My current experience (and I’m open to it changing) is that I was totally wrong.

The reality is, the more stuff you have and the longer your to-do list, the more you have to deal with – whether it’s with ease or not.

It doesn’t mean more stuff is “bad.” You all know me too well to think that I would judge abundance as bad. I’ve worked too hard on my mindset to let that happen;) It just means that whatever and whomever you allow into your life, you have to care for it.

And that takes energy.

This goes for people, things, thoughts…all of it.

When you have a relationship, you need to check in, create time to connect, compromise, talk about what to do for dinner, and have finance meetings. When you have kids you need to make lunches and drive them to school and events and talk to teachers and go to multiple birthday parties.

It means that when you have a condo in Telluride, even though you may put your mortgage and all bills on autopay, you still have to repair fans that break, replace deck furniture, or have someone shovel snow in the winter when you’re not there…

It means that when you have a house on the hill, you need to schedule your utility bill payments, fix plumbing leaks, keep up the landscaping. You need to flip your mattress and touch up the paint and get the moss off the roof.

When you have nice clothes you need to make sure to wash them on gentle cycle and pull out the ones that need to be hung to dry. You need to have hangers that don’t snag. You can’t trust your husband to do the laundry;)

The tchotchke around the house needs to be dusted and moved around to find things.

When you have a business, you need to keep the energy flowing and give and create and let the world know about it so you can help more people. When you have multiple programs and care for them immensely, you revisit them and improve them. This can all be fun – for me it IS.

Most of the time.

But it is really easy to let it get out of control as an entrepreneur. There are so many things you can keep doing, and the task is never done. I’ve watched so many videos about how to create a proper work day when you work from home/wherever you’re at, and taken workshops on time management, avoiding overwhelm, and how to create systems in your business.

And I implement what I learn. I delegate. I have a Virtual Assistant and people who help me do tasks at home. I…try my best.

Yet the bottom line is, running a business, having an abundance of things (even if they’re awesome!), traveling a ton – it takes effort to keep them going.

While all of these things are not bad (and are actually quite yummy!) they are not SIMPLE.

Some will say, “Let it be easy, Ana! What if you let it be easy and effortless?” I ask my coaching clients that sometimes. “What would happen if you just let this be easy?”

The reality is, it would be easier – but it would still be more stuff in my life that I had to care for – even if it was caring for it with more ease!

Again – more ease, but still NOT SIMPLE.

We are here on this beautiful planet with this one precious life (at least in this incarnation) and no matter how “easy” we can make something, the more you have to deal with, the less time you have to NOT deal with things. The less time you have to JUST BE. To stare at the clouds. To sit quietly with a friend.

multitasking Check out this really vulnerable photo I’m sharing of me below. It’s a photo of me breastfeeding, checking email on my iPhone, and looking something up in a book. I’m holding a pen in my mouth (I like to take notes) and while you can’t see it, I’ve got my computer open in front of me on a stand streaming a lecture. And my baby is like…6 weeks old.

None of this was anything I HAD to do. I planned for my maternity leave and pre-wrote emails and posts and had my VA helping me out on social media and with my groups. I LOVE learning and was taking this time to soak up more info, make the most of my time off, and geek out.

Something in me had deep FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and was not ok with simply BEING.

My husband took this photo and showed it to me with a joking smile. I laughed back.

I looked at it later and cried.

I had forgotten l’arte di non fare niente: the Italian saying for The Art of Doing Nothing. Hell, I even wrote a blog post about it once. And it was high time to tap into it again.

I wasn’t about to waste this precious time in my life with my new baby on catching up with my FOMO needs. I am so grateful my husband took this picture because it was a big ol’ bitch slap in the face about how present I was being in my life.I was doing cool shizzle, going to cool places, experiencing the miracle of birth and life…learning a TON too! Yet while all these are good things, it was too much.

Here’s the deal: you can earn more money – with ease – and have more yummy stuff – with ease – and do tons of amazing things, be location independent…

But in the end,

Freedom Is a Feeling (tweet this)

And for me, that feeling is supported by simplicity as well.

No matter what your life looks like on the outside – whether it is one filled with travels, adventures, financial abundance, location independence, or none of the above, if you don’t FEEL free, you aren’t.

photoThat’s why meditation and cleanses and spiritual practice are such an important part of my life. I constantly need to cultivate that inner freedom. Freedom from my own sh*t.

Many of you know about my Full-On 365 blog, where after another cancer scare I committed to living Full-On EVERY DAY for a year. It literally transformed my life.

So I stand before you today, fully aware of my need to bring back simplicity and presence into my life, and am committing to a deep process of simplification for the next year.

365lpgLet’s call it Simplify 365, shall we? πŸ˜‰

I’ll be entering into simplification like I’ve never seen it before. Letting go of things, people, thoughts, and experiences that no longer serve me. I will get rid of many of my nice things – not because they are bad, but because I don’t want to have to take care of them anymore. And I will definitely chuck my not-so-nice things.

I will practice saying, “No” to all that doesn’t create flow and joy in my life. I will reign in my finances so that I understand them and they are easy to assess instead of not paying attention to things simply because it’s never been a big problem (the not knowing creates mental chaos that I need to undo!). I’ll lay out my crap in front of you so you can know that it IS possible to have true simple freedom too. For me, that’s the point of writing about it, after all.

I’ll be blogging about my journey regularly, sharing what Simplification goal I’ll set for that day or week or month, and let you know how I’m doing – my challenges, my successes, my embarrassing truths.

I’ll be using lots of tools as I learn more about how to simplify life: blogs and tips from masters of this art that have been practicing this consistently for years, books, interviews with Simplification masters…and YOU all, who I am sure have lots to offer me on this journey as well.

vulnerabilityBrenΓ© Brown inspired me to do this even more authentically when she said, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” I’m bankin’ on it!

So feel free to join me on this latest adventure. Maybe it will inspire you to even join me with each challenge I set before myself – or create your own!

My first step? Getting rid of some of my nice things that take up too much energy:

I’m selling my condo in Telluride. At the base of the ski lift. Right on the river. On the top floor. In a crappy real estate market. Ouch. Stay-tuned to see how that goes…

Share your tips or challenges with simplification below – I can tell I’m going to appreciate any help and camaraderie I can get!

24 Comments on Simple Freedom – The Beginning of My Journey Into How to Simplify Life

  1. Nora
    August 5, 2014 at 7:37 pm (3 years ago)

    I just stumbled upon an other blog about minimalist living yesterday, and now this today. I’m starting to think it’s a sign to start simplifying my own sh*t! Can’t wait to read more about your latest endeavor; I’m sure I’ll be inspired to make some changes myself πŸ™‚

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    • Ana
      August 6, 2014 at 7:25 am (3 years ago)

      Awesome, Nora! Please please please feel free to join me on this new adventure…I’m going to need the camaraderie! I always look for signs that show I’m on the right path. I’ll be sharing a few on my next post, because the Universe has responded with a big Hellz Yes! with this decision;)

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  2. Freesia
    August 7, 2014 at 7:29 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow Ana! This is amazing! I’ve slowly been working this way but it’s sped up this year. I can’t wait to read about your journey! Xoxo

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 9, 2014 at 6:27 pm (3 years ago)

      Please join me, Freesia! I can already tell it’s going to be worth it;)

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  3. Andrea Hiltbrunner
    August 9, 2014 at 6:06 pm (3 years ago)

    Ana, hi!
    I can feel an absolute abundance and freedom inside of me even if I am arround lot’s of things and tasks to do. Even though my little kids need lot’s of time and support it still is The Freedom I was searching for. the freedom to connect and to love deeply. Love, Andrea

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 9, 2014 at 6:30 pm (3 years ago)

      That is awesome! I am so glad you can do that;) I’m excited to get so simplified that there are fewer tasks to do, as for me, it irks my sense of freedom. It’s great how we all have our own versions, which is why I say, “Freedom is a Feeling.” It’s not about what it looks like on the outside. Different situations can feel free for different people. And we just need to find our own!

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  4. Dorit Sasson
    August 9, 2014 at 9:16 pm (3 years ago)

    Hi, Ana,
    I can relate. Big time especially since giving birth last year for the second time (My baby just turned one today) and I am now finding it much easier to just let go. throwing out papers from 15 years ago – let it go. Giving away all of her baby clothes she outgrew just a few months ago – letting it go and her baby furniture and chairs. Throwing out is the most energy balancing feeling there is because it opens the door to meditation. Then you’re able to bring back what you’ve been holding unto. Life is 100% maintenance but it sounds like you’ve got this nailed. Oh and when my baby was six weeks old, I was already writing my memoir – we mommas need to do what we need to do.
    Great post. Here’s to livin’ a simplistic life.
    Dorit Sasson
    Giving a Voice to Your Story
    http://www.GivingaVoicetotheVoicelessBook.com

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 13, 2014 at 4:00 am (3 years ago)

      Dorit, thank you for sharing that you were writing your memoir when your baby was 6 weeks old – indeed, often a passionate life isn’t a “balanced” life to most people. I am really looking forward to letting go of all this extra STUFF I don’t need anymore. It is hard to let go of the sentimental things…I find it takes a few passes for some items;)

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  5. Olya
    August 11, 2014 at 3:37 pm (3 years ago)

    Hi Ana, this post came in very timely for me:). I just made a pact to undo the clutter. And to comment on your picture: now I really am happy my husband did not let me start a new business when I got pregnant:). Love you! Good luck!

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 13, 2014 at 3:57 am (3 years ago)

      Olya can you believe that that photo was me not even working? It was me packing in things I LOVE for fun! Like reading and learning… overwhelm can come in sneaky ways;)

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  6. Megan
    August 20, 2014 at 2:52 am (3 years ago)

    Wow, amazing post, and definitely food for though for me as I’m still working my up to the abundant life where I will have the ability to accumulate more “stuff” if I so choose. A wise warning for those in my shoes, in other words. Thank you for sharing and allowing yourself to be so vulnerable.

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 20, 2014 at 3:43 am (3 years ago)

      Megan, you are so welcome! It is tricky to strike the balance at times, because stuff in and of itself isn’t “bad.” It can jut get overwhelming at times! Sounds like you are already ahead of the game with awareness though;)

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  7. Llyane @FrenchOnSkype
    August 20, 2014 at 3:43 am (3 years ago)

    What amazes me is how we forget to do things that we know or love. in the middle of doing what needs to be done we forget to be who we want to be.

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 20, 2014 at 3:45 am (3 years ago)

      Definitely! I found it surprising as well – how I forgot how I actually prefer most of my time to be in nature. It blew me away that I started spending so much time inside managing all my to-dos…I am so glad I caught it early!

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  8. Sandra
    August 20, 2014 at 10:43 am (3 years ago)

    I love this! I can’t believe you lived out of a car for 7 years! that’s amazing. I’ve just bought a one way ticket overseas at the end of the year. I’m selling or getting rid of everything at the moment. I’m totally not ready and nervous as hell but hey, you only live once right.

    Oh and I just discovered, I have major FOMO!! LOL

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 22, 2014 at 6:18 am (3 years ago)

      That’s awesome, Sandra! I can’t wait for you to have all those adventures that a one-way ticket brings;) May it be an amazing journey!

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  9. Puja
    August 20, 2014 at 3:14 pm (3 years ago)

    Ana, your post hit me like a ton of bricks. So much truth and vulnerability to your writing. You’re right we do get entangled in our life so much that we forget the meaning and significance of “simple” . Thanks for the beautiful reminder and all the best with your condo sale πŸ™‚ xo

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 22, 2014 at 6:19 am (3 years ago)

      Puja thank you so much for your well-wishes…I’m not wanting to jinx it, but condo is going along well;) Updates to come…

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  10. Fatma
    August 20, 2014 at 4:25 pm (3 years ago)

    Ana, I hear you. I did a Simplify my Life project a few years ago. It took me 3 years to get to the place that felt spacious and wonderful! I look forward to see how your experience unfolds.

    Great picture! πŸ™‚

    Love
    Fatma

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 22, 2014 at 6:20 am (3 years ago)

      3 years! I can definitely see how it can take that long. I thought a year would be too long, but as I get started, I can see it is a longer journey if I want to take it to the level I do. Congrats on your spaciousness and wonderfulness!

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  11. Anne Omland
    August 21, 2014 at 10:21 pm (3 years ago)

    Love this! I’m into minimalism myself- not in the “live with 20 things” mentality but in a de-cluttered, make space and energy only for what serves you variety- like you mention. I’m excited for you and your journey! Looking forward to hearing how it goes!

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 22, 2014 at 6:21 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks, Anne! I am really excited too – and totally dig your philosophy about simple;)

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  12. Helene Scott
    August 21, 2014 at 11:10 pm (3 years ago)

    I was at WDS this year too and LOVED Dee’s talk as well. So inspiring the action you’re taking from it. I look forward to seeing where this takes you!

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    • Ana Verzone
      August 22, 2014 at 6:22 am (3 years ago)

      Wasn’t it great, Helene! I’m excited too…maybe I’ll see you at WDS next year!

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